Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Clothing Swap Sneak Peek

Clothing Swap Sneak Peek

On Friday, I'll be sharing 5 tips to hosting a clothing swap, but I wanted to share this adorable picture from the clothing swap that I helped a client friend host at her home last weekend!


My thoughts before hosting a clothing swap are always: hoping people bring enough clothing, feeling relieved to have the emotional weight off my shoulders as I bring clothing to swap (or donate), too, excitement to meet new potential friends and clients, worry that someone will feel left out of sizing or style, interest in what people will bring

This swap was no different! I'm so touched to have been asked to come help out, and I loved some of the conversations I had. We had a beautiful conversation about embracing our bodies now and as they are instead of waiting until a day that may never come. I found the references to what our significant others think about our bodies (very positive!) such an interesting contrast to the remarks made about ourselves (much less positive). Maybe we have something to learn from those around us?


Friday, March 27, 2015

Be Inspired By This

Be Inspired By This


I was so inspired by this beautiful mother & father-daughter photography project that I had to share it with you. This couple is dressing up their five year-old as different strong African-American women and documenting it in photography. I've seen riffs on this theme before, but these were particularly powerful.

See more on her father's Facebook page. 

Have a great weekend! I'm spending some quality time with my friends and my little one-year-old "nephew," hosting a clothing swap party for a client, and possibly meeting a styling client in the evening on Sunday, too!


Simple Easter Style

Simple Easter Style


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Bear with me. The caps on this post are going wild for some reason!

Dressing for church on easter is one of those things that stresses me out. First, i'm not catholic, like my husband, or even christian, like my mother-in-law. I'm very spiritual, but i was not raised attending any kind of church. Now i find myself spending easter every year with a family for whom going to church on easter is the norm. The first year i went, i almost bailed at the last minute because i had worked myself into such a tizzy. I was so unsure of what people would wear and so worried that i'd wear something offensive. Everything was tossed on to the bed as too tight, too conservative, too casual, too dressy. I think i had a full on suit on at one point. I can't even remember what i wore eventually. 

Thankfully, i've now been to church many times, and even on several easter sundays. But i'm acutely aware of the internal pressure we can put on ourselves to wear something that feels special yet natural. Combine that with things like walking half mile to get to a church or basting a special cut of meat in the oven before and after or chasing kids around as they find eggs, and it can be stressful! 

Here are my ideas for outfits that you can plan ahead with and not stress out like i did. 

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

On Bridal Hair

On Bridal Hair


Did you see this Buzzfeed article featuring women who wore their hair natural for their wedding day? It really got me thinking about something that has been on my mind since we got married a few years ago. While I'm not the first person to write about short hair for brides, I do have a personal experience with this.

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At the time we got engaged, I had chin length hair, and I immediately began to grow it out. I think I didn't feel like I really had the option to keep it short. It sounds silly to say that now, but I bought into the idea that I'd have more versatility if I had longer hair. In the end, the way that I felt on our wedding day didn't feel quite like me, and I wish I had at least considered keeping it short or even cutting it shorter.

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Of course, a wedding day often feels a bit like theater, not quite like real life, but I wonder if having hair that I identified as my own style would have helped me feel more grounded?

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I really love the images I see lately of women rocking their own hairstyles on their wedding days, whether it be short or natural or long and a weave! I hope they feel like themselves. They seem like they do!

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My advice to you, whether you're getting married, attending a wedding, or just headed to the salon? Look back at pictures of yourself that you like the most, and start there. You just might surprise yourself! Because, in the end, I loved our wedding, and I DO look like myself, even if the hair isn't quite me. There's no hiding goofiness!

More of our wedding pictures here





Monday, March 23, 2015

Spring (Heart-Shaped) Things I'm Noticing

Spring (Heart-Shaped) Things I'm Noticing

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Have you noticed heart-shaped sunglasses popping up everywhere, too? It's one of those things that once I paid attention to it, I saw them everywhere! I love how playful they feel!

Especially when made up to be really pin up girl.

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Happy Monday! I heart you!

Sunday, March 22, 2015

Winter: Shake It Off

Winter: Shake It Off



In advance of picking out your clothes for Monday (and hopefully for the week!), I wanted to say this. When I woke up on Friday, the first day of spring, I walked out my back door to this. Snow, gloom, and grayness. Was I back home in Vermont? Back to my law school days in Chicago? I've had many dreary first days of spring, but this one hit me particularly hard. I wanted to go back to bed until it was warm and sunny! 

Then I stopped stomping my feet and looked around a little bit. There, nestled under an inch of snow, were the first green shoots of my mother's bulbs! And if I got over my self pity, I heard birds chirping. And the trees had little buds! There was life beyond my sinus infection and the snow, and I was going to go find it! 

Here are some of my favorite ways for us all to wear spring all week. Maybe Mother Nature will know we support her efforts! 


Friday, March 20, 2015

Mother of the Bride (or Groom) Dresses for the Moms I Actually Know

Mother of the Bride (or Groom) Dresses for the Moms I Actually Know

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I remember a picture that I sent to my mom before I got married: it was of a page from a magazine, and it laid out what that magazine thought was "The Only Option" for "Modern Mothers." I sent it to my mom because we both found it hysterical. Who were these "modern mothers" and what happened to their style?! 

Here's the thing: I don't know any women who want to feel dowdy on their daughter or son's wedding day! The women I know who have a child getting married feel just like the other women I know--they want comfort, they want to feel special, and they might have certain parts of their bodies that they feel more or less comfortable with. For some reason, though, many articles and stores think that mothers want to wear one of about three dresses, all pastel and/or beaded, and all with a cropped jacket.

This is what a modern mama can look like! 

In case you, or your mother (or your spouse-to-be's-mother), want something better than that, let's chat. You see, I recently worked with a virtual client (she's in the midwest) whose daughters are getting married this summer, and she wanted some help with what to wear for their bridal showers, rehearsal dinners, and weddings. I'm going to share some of what I suggested to her over the next few weeks.

First, let's start with the main event. I think what any woman wears to the main event of a weekend, whether it's a wedding or a fun weekend away punctuated with a Broadway show, can help her mentally set the tone for the whole weekend. I don't say this to put pressure on anyone! In fact, the opposite! I think once you know what you'll wear for the most special part, the rest can just fall into place.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Spring Shopping at Old Navy

Spring Shopping at Old Navy

The other day I went virtual shopping for you all at Old Navy while I had some time at the mall before meeting up with friends for dinner and a movie. Mary wrote me and asked if I would consider going to Old Navy and taking some pictures for her of things that I like there right now. Of course I would! I found some really cute things that I wanted to share with you! Let's see what you think.


First, this jean jacket. It's comparable to the jean jacket that my husband got for me two years ago from Anthropologie, which means that it's stretchy without feeling flabby, it has great detailing and dark color, and it's fitted. 




I liked it with a few of the spring dresses they had (or anything light that you already own) for an outfit to wear now and then switch up later in the warmer months. This particular dress had a modern pattern and a flattering length for us shorter women. Sometimes maxi dresses are just too long!



You could even layer a cardigan (like this red pop of color) underneath if it's still chilly at night where you live, like it is here in Northern Virginia.



I also really like the idea of this jean jacket over a shorter dress, like this. See how the jacket feels a little tough and the dress feels soft and feminine? I love that difference. I also love how the sleeves can roll up on this stretchy denim jacket!


Speaking of jackets, I also really liked this military jacket. It's very similar to the Jcrew one of a couple years ago (although that one was waxed), but I think the cinched in waist is actually more flattering. The Jcrew also had HUGE pockets. I love the high neck of this Old Navy version, and it has gold buttons like the original one did. 


Ok, now on to dresses! Old Navy had a bunch of striped options, which are my weakness! The one above (and below) is a stretchy shift dress, which I think is the most flexible of all dress styles. I love a shift over a button down, for example. And no, they don't both have to be long sleeved.




This same style works really well with a sleeveless dress, too, and makes sleeveless dresses wearable even in the cooler months.


 And last but not least, this coral number. It is not my style, really, but I wanted to show you all an option with longer sleeves and a more full skirt. I think this would be gorgeous on many of you!


That's all! Thanks for the request, Mary, and keep them coming! 

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Spring (Sneaker) Things I'm Noticing

Spring (Sneaker) Things I'm Noticing

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Do you know what makes the outfit above work? For me, it's the sneakers. I love the whole look, but it could feel totally different with this spring's brightly colored, pointy high heels. This is an outfit built for exploring a new city, heading out with a new baby, meeting up with friends, or going on a first date. The sneakers do all of that. And, if you agree, you're in luck. 

Liberty print Vans

Because OOOOOOoooo boy is this a good season for sneakers! I had a really hard time choosing favorites to show you here today, it's so good. Wherever you look, you're going to find cool sneakers in tons of colors. I promise. Here are a few favorites. 

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I'd wear any of these in the following way: for now, with jeans rolled up to just above the sneaker, whatever height that was, with something feminine like flowers and then a darker jean jacket. Then, with shorts and a button down shirt with bright lipstick in the early spring. Then with shorts and a flowy, festival-ish tank top in the summer.

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Or with a great vintage-inspired dress because I love that contrast of soft dress meets sporty shoe. These two women nail it!

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Monday, March 16, 2015

Happy 2nd Birthday, Jaxon

Happy 2nd Birthday, Jaxon


Dear Jaxon,

Happy Birthday! Today you turn two. I can't believe that you're so young still; it feels like you were always part of our family. I remember when you first came home, and I just stared at you. Who was this strange new dog in our home? You were already so different from your big brother, Cairo, and it took me some time to get to like you. I loved you immediately. So did your cousin, Sebastian!


Things like yogurt containers suddenly became fun in our house again! I took about 50 blurry pictures of that first yogurt experience with you because you just wouldn't stay still. There was so much you wanted to see and do!




Some of the names we have for you include Beefcake, Pig Pen, Munchie, Mun-Chi-Chi, Jax, Jaxy, Jaxy-Waxy, and Brudder. You are fearless, sometimes to the point of reckless. You love to swim more than anything, you still sit "in" my lap whenever I sit on or even crouch near the floor. You love to be dirty, love the snow, and love attention. You eat with wild abandon and drink equally loudly. You sleep next to the bed, along the windowframe, and then wake up in the night to go to your spot at the foot of the basement stairs. You love to run full speed ahead up on to the bed and our chests and bellies. You are a snuggle bug. You love to sleep on your back.


On the day we brought you home, you got tired at the end of our block, and I carried you in my shirt the rest of the way downtown. These days, you can go hiking for miles and still take a swim at the end of the trip. You love the car, especially if you can catch a breeze. You are the sweetest little brother, always cleaning Cairo's face with that tongue, which can't ever stay in your mouth. You are very smart, and I think you could figure out most things given enough time. You love kids and fun and are the life of the party. You have formidable mandibles and can make short work of any bone or stick.

You weigh 107 pounds, you've gotten stitches several times, you love food, especially carrots, meat, and fruit. You love to crunch and chew. And guess what? We love you.