Yes, I love that hat. But I don't love the thoughts I have about that hat. Some of my thoughts include things like this:
"Uh oh! It's almost fall. What will I do without my hat to wear?"I know! I know. It sounds so ridiculous when I type that or read what I've written, but I think things like this. You can literally see this hat getting more and more dirty, but I keep wearing it (yes, I wipe it down, too) because...well, why?
"Ugh. I can't wear my hat [in this situation]. How will I look cool enough without it?"
I can hide all of that.
OK, now I feel like a hat weirdo and want to reassure myself: you have things like that, right? Because as fun as fashion is, I think sometimes we go shopping or we try on one outfit after another because we feel insufficient. This weekend, for example, my husband and I had an important breakfast meeting to attend. As I fussed over what I would wear (Looks too young, Way too casual, Hate these shoes with that dress, Doesn't feel like me), he pulled on jeans and the same button down he'd already worn a day or two before. Oh, I thought, you're going as yourself! Well, that's easy!
And, truth be told, part of what I love about styling (extra)ordinary women is that we're already good enough. As Byron Katie would remind us, the thought that you need something that you don't have is actually impossible. You don't have it so you don't need it. Or, as I like to remind myself when I'm feeling overly exposed or putting too much pressure on myself, you are already enough.